Use prior knowledge of personal attack to defend yourself

Let’s face it! It’s one of the most powerful sensations in the world.

Just imagine that, by a set of coincidences you manage to get some advanced knowledge of someone or a group of people trying to screw you over, sometimes in an alpha male situation, or revenge as we commonly call it. So? What’s so fascinating about a situation like that? The good thing is you having advanced knowledge of the whole thing, but the key ingredient here is, how to use that information for your own good and advantage. Before we go into that lets take a look at all the mistakes (so that you avoid them) you might make when facing a similar situation. So always avoid:

1. Anger (or the commonly named “I’ll break his f*cking face” factor):

• Always avoid this. The only thing you’ll take off of the whole experience will be, reacting the same way as the people you are against in the first place, and that’s not where you want to be.
  

• Violence (verbal and physical) doesn’t get you anywhere, so just skip it for your own good. All that’s going to come out of it will be, a hospital bill for some stiches.

2. Revenge (AKA: Wait until you see what’s coming)

• Again, avoid repeating the same things you were a victim of, because that’s the moment where all your reason will be lost.

3. Avoid talking about your prior knowledge to anyone.

• People have friends and the walls have ears, so avoid your enemy to acknowledge you just found out about his plan. You’ll be the only one losing if this happens.

So now that we reviewed the three major NOT-TO-DO’s, lets take a peek on what your counter-attack could be:
1. Don’t act surprised at all (in fact do your most unimpressed face ever) when the attack you’re already expecting happens.

• People hate, when starting a fight, to have no reaction from their opponents. In personal attacks there’s always the pleasure of inflicting damage to a victim, but when the victim doesn’t seem to react, or to even appear damaged at all, the attacker’s frustration arises

2. Agree with whom is attacking you on their reasons.

• Before you start thinking “I’m not going to take blame or agree with someone who’s totally wrong, or i even hate”, think twice… Deep inside you know right from wrong, but in this game your point of view, or arguments won’t make you win either way, so just embrace that and remember that your reaction towards what’s happening will be totally false, so all you need, is some acting in order to tell whoever (boss, girlfriend, wife, enemies or even friends) that their absolutely right, without them getting the idea that you’re being ironic or going “yada yada yada” on them. If they believe you actually agree with them, by now their whole reason for picking up on you is a lost cause.

3. Counter attack over the top

• Now this will require some skill. When you get advanced knownledge of what’s about to happen,  immediately start thinking of what your classy, white glove slap in the face will be.

• Now this one IS NOT a straight shot answer. You’ll have to know your opponent and what flaws he/she has, but the main goal is to, in the most classiest of ways, with the biggest respect and decency possible, use them in your reaction speech. Say how you understand them and that maybe the best thing to do right now, for your own improvement, is to correct certain (SPECIFIC) flaws, your relationship (work / friend / whatever) has at the moment… and you appoint those flaws, except all of those are his/hers!
  So what you’ll be able to do is, to get that person to re-think about those flaws, and once they do (normally after all this has passed) they’ll value your opinion, and even if they don’t say it out loud, they’ll acknowledge (for themselves) what they’re actually doing wrong, and that’s what matters.

Remember: Class, respect, and good manners always have and always will win a brawl and any fight. Don’t ever incite violence for nothing positive will ever get out of it.